As parents and caregivers, one of our most important roles is to protect our children — not only physically, but emotionally and mentally too. Sadly, we live in a world where not all adults can be trusted, and sometimes children or teenagers may find themselves in situations where someone — even a familiar adult — tries to violate their boundaries.
Whether it’s an inappropriate touch, suggestive language, or any form of abuse, children need to know what to do and how to respond. This isn’t about making them fearful of every adult, but about empowering them with wisdom and strength.
Here’s how you can prepare them:
1. Teach Them About Their Body and Boundaries
Let them know:
- Their body belongs to them.
- There are parts of their body — the areas covered by a swimsuit — that no one should touch, look at, or ask to see.
- It’s okay to say “NO” loudly and firmly to anyone, even a grown-up, who tries to cross these boundaries.
2. Use Clear, Age-Appropriate Language
Avoid vague terms. Teach them real names for their body parts so they can clearly explain if something happens. This removes confusion and ensures clarity if they ever need to report.
3. Teach the 3-Step Action Plan: Say – Run – Tell
1. Say “NO!” Loudly and Clearly
- Teach your child that they don’t need to be polite in unsafe situations.
- Practice this with them through role-play.
2. Run Away Immediately
- Tell them it’s okay to leave — even if it’s a teacher, relative, or neighbor.
3. Tell a Trusted Adult
- Encourage them to speak up right away — no matter who the person is or what they threatened.
- Let them know you will always believe them and protect them.
4. Identify Safe Adults
Help your child build a “circle of trust” — adults they can go to for help if you’re not around. This might include:
- Teachers
- School counselors
- Religious leaders
- A friend’s parent you trust
5. Reassure Them: It’s Never Their Fault
Let your child know that if someone ever tries to touch them inappropriately:
- They are not to blame.
- They won’t get in trouble for speaking up.
- You will listen, believe them, and take action.
6. Stay Involved in Their World
- Know where your kids are, who they’re with, and what they’re doing.
- Encourage open conversation. Create a home environment where they can ask awkward questions and share uncomfortable feelings.
Final Thought
The world may not always be safe — but when children are educated, alert, and supported, they are stronger. You don’t have to scare them; just equip them. A simple conversation today can prevent lifelong trauma tomorrow.
Talk. Listen. Protect. Empower.